First let me start off with saying that I have a love hate relationship with social media. However, the one thing that I do like about Facebook is that it will remind me of posts from the past. Most of the time it’s a picture or a quote that resembles a time and place in my life. This morning as I was scrolling down “on this day feed” I see this:
“When we admit that our lives have become unmanageable, we don’t have to argue our point of view. We have to accept ourselves as we are. We no longer have to be right all the time. When we give ourselves this freedom, we can allow others to be wrong. Freedom to change seems to come after acceptance of ourselves.”
Self-acceptance is a difficult process. We give up our need to be perfect and we learn to be vulnerable. We begin to love ourselves for who we are and what we are doing with our lives. We no longer have to be a “right fighter.” Our need to always be right comes from a place of anxiety and lack of self-acceptance; fueled by our need to control the world around us to feel safe. How do I know this? I am a reformed “right fighter.” The most powerful thing anyone shared with me is this quote. They said, “its ok to sit back and be right and let others be wrong.”
The key to self-acceptance is figuring out who you are and allowing other people to know you for your true authentic self. The process can be anxiety provoking because you will learn that not everything in the world is black and white. You will find vulnerability and acceptance in the gray area of life. The good news is that you don’t have to go through the process alone. If you are ready to making a change towards self-acceptance and need support, please feel free to reach out via email. As always I welcome your comments, thoughts, and shares.